Explaining Your Passion

July 08, 2021 / Roger Edwards

I had “the conversation'' the other day. Not the one about where babies come from, the other one. You know, the one where another adult realises that you play video games and is utterly flummoxed by such a thing. Yes, this tedious shit still happens. However, as someone who tries to be civil to others, I feel it incumbent upon me to try and give a concise response when faced with such questions. In some respects being confronted with a situation like this actually offers an opportunity to educate someone who is culturally ignorant about the popularity and significance of video games. Hence, there is a sense of obligation, as an unofficial ambassador for video games, to try and be coherent, plausible and not come off as a nut job. So, with all this in mind, how exactly do you explain your passion for something to someone who finds it utterly alien and probably has some inherent prejudice against it?

I would hazard a guess that most people would start by giving a verbal overview on the merits of gaming. However, fans often cannot see the woods for the trees, so there’s a good chance that this approach could result in a lengthy diatribe, which fails in its good intentions and leaves one of the two individuals involved with their eyes glazed over. Can you guess which one? Another approach may be to try and introduce this fictitious friend who is curious about gaming to some of the professional coverage that is provided by the press. I’m not talking about those tabloid, knee jerk articles with their sensational headlines. I mean reference the fact that most major news sites review video games as they do movies and provide industry analysis. Mind you, this also comes with its own set of problems, as some of it can be an esoteric and niche market. It may only further bewilder and confuse, rather than illuminate. Plus the games media itself can at times be extremely blinkered and unwelcoming.

Some peoples reaction when they discover you play video games

I think the best way to explain to a gaming muggle is to directly show them what it is you love about gaming. By that I don’t mean just demonstrate one of your favourite titles but make clear to them how you personally experience it. Highlight the positive aspects that are common to other hobbies and pastimes, such as the social interactions and the friendships. Gaming is truly international, affording opportunities to meet online and build relations with people all over the world. Reference the associated blogging community and those that produce content about gaming as this can also help promote gaming in a positive way. The parallels that video games share with sports fandom may also work in your favour. The key is to break the stereotype of the gamer being an antisocial person indulging in something that has negative connotations. It also doesn’t do any harm to show how gaming can be a force for good by the way both developers and gamers undertake charitable work.

My suggestions are by no means comprehensive and I’m sure you can think of plenty of additional ideas yourself. As ever with any sort of human interaction, you need to adjust your pitch according to the situation and who you are talking to. Yet if each of us can manage to change at least one person's mind about gaming, assuming you ever find themselves questioned as I were, perhaps we can say goodbye to the trite depiction of gamers that still prevails in certain parts of the media. Please note that I am not advocating proactive evangelising of video games to non gamers whether they want to know or not. Sometimes it is far more sensible and safer to compartmentalise your life and not share too much about yourself with work colleagues etc. However, there are some people who are genuinely curious about things outside of their own experience, who are open to re-evaluating their opinions. So if they ask, then do your best to explain.